What do you do when your spouse refuses to sign the divorce papers? Start the divorce proceedings because you do not need him to agree in order to obtain a legal divorce. A court appearance will be scheduled and it is up to him if he wants to appear.
However, if you want cooperation from your spouse, be nice and polite. Consider discussing property division and child custody issues with him or her in a non-confrontational manner; ask for input on issues; try to arrive at a reasonable and fair agreement.
If you cannot work together amicably, contact an experienced Orange County Divorce attorney for the help you need. Make sure you retain separate attorneys. Most importantly, don’t let your emotions get the best or worst of you!